Lucky in Love? (I Don't Think So!)
Some people are lucky in love. They find just the right person and spend the rest of their lives together. I once believed in love, not so much any more. My love luck seems to have run out. Let me explain why I feel this way.
Love #1: Picture this: I meet this gal in Jr. High. She's a 7th grader, I'm in the 8th. She likes me, I like her. Neither of us are old enough to date, so we spend lunch time at school together and hold hands, etc. Her family lived on a small farm, and they frequently had parties for the kids. Since Birdie (we'll call my gal that) had a sister in my class, I was always invited to the parties they had for classmates. So, I got to hold Birdie's hand some more and dance with her. Finally, we became old enough to double date. My super tolerant brother even let us go to the movies with he and his date a few times. When I finally got my driver's license, we thought that was the coolest!!Still, neither of us were into dating except for the occasional movie, or going to Dave's Drive In and splitting an order of fries. No heavy petting or anything....I was still shy and she was too. Besides that, she had two nosy younger brothers lurking in the shadows with their "froggin" lights and snickering! Fast forward to my Sr. year, we were still dating (all the way thru HS) and finally attended the prom together. Yep, icing on the cake! I graduated, moved on to college life. She finished her Sr. year, moved onto Business School, graduated and got a job in Washington D.C. working for the F.B.I. She's on husband 2 or three, has kids, grands and great grands already! End of that story.
Love #2: Lin was beautiful. We met in HS, but never dated, were just good friends. In fact, she dated one of my best buddies. They finally separated and she dated another guy in our class. We remained good friends, saw each other occasionally, and kept in touch. A couple years later, I found out she was expecting a baby by the "other guy in our class." She was engaged to him, then suddenly they broke up, and he agreed to pay support, but wouldn't marry her. Found out later that he had gotten another gal pregnant and he married her. (She had money, dad was a doc, etc,yada, yada.) I began seeing Lin seriously right after her son was born. I FELL hard for her, wanted to marry her and raise her son as my own. We almost made that happen. BUT, another guy, 20 years her senior came into the picture, offered her a stable home for she and her son, which I was working towards, but was still in college part time, working part time. She opted for the older guy. Guess she was doing what she thought was right. Evidently it worked out for them because 30+ years later she was still married to him when she was taken by early-onset Alzheimer's Disease.
Love #3: I met this lady on a blind date. She was beautiful, kind and lots of fun. I knew after the first date (just coffee and pie) that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I finished up my college experience, got a full time job, proposed marriage, she accepted. 6 months later we got married on the hottest day of the August of that year. One year later, we had our first son. He was stillborn, sadness prevailed. Not to be daunted, we tried again. My daughter was born the next year. What joy! bought two houses, had son #2 4 years later. Life was good. Life's ups and downs prevailed, but we accepted them, kept our love together. In spite of her parents trying to sabotage our love, we stuck it out for 38 years, 1 month, 22 days and 7 hours. She was taken from me by several illnesses caused by diabetes. She was the great love of my life. She will gone 11 years next week, and I still miss her!!
Love #4: Still looking, but not really intently. Most of the women I would be interested in are either confirmed bachelorettes or married. I like my life, now that I'm used to it. I have learned that there is a great difference in being lonely and being alone. I like being alone, and I rarely get lonely anymore. If I do, I try to spend time with friends, family and get out of the house. Maybe someday the right one will come along. If not, life is good just the way it is.
Until next time,
Go, create something,
JF
Love #1: Picture this: I meet this gal in Jr. High. She's a 7th grader, I'm in the 8th. She likes me, I like her. Neither of us are old enough to date, so we spend lunch time at school together and hold hands, etc. Her family lived on a small farm, and they frequently had parties for the kids. Since Birdie (we'll call my gal that) had a sister in my class, I was always invited to the parties they had for classmates. So, I got to hold Birdie's hand some more and dance with her. Finally, we became old enough to double date. My super tolerant brother even let us go to the movies with he and his date a few times. When I finally got my driver's license, we thought that was the coolest!!Still, neither of us were into dating except for the occasional movie, or going to Dave's Drive In and splitting an order of fries. No heavy petting or anything....I was still shy and she was too. Besides that, she had two nosy younger brothers lurking in the shadows with their "froggin" lights and snickering! Fast forward to my Sr. year, we were still dating (all the way thru HS) and finally attended the prom together. Yep, icing on the cake! I graduated, moved on to college life. She finished her Sr. year, moved onto Business School, graduated and got a job in Washington D.C. working for the F.B.I. She's on husband 2 or three, has kids, grands and great grands already! End of that story.
Love #2: Lin was beautiful. We met in HS, but never dated, were just good friends. In fact, she dated one of my best buddies. They finally separated and she dated another guy in our class. We remained good friends, saw each other occasionally, and kept in touch. A couple years later, I found out she was expecting a baby by the "other guy in our class." She was engaged to him, then suddenly they broke up, and he agreed to pay support, but wouldn't marry her. Found out later that he had gotten another gal pregnant and he married her. (She had money, dad was a doc, etc,yada, yada.) I began seeing Lin seriously right after her son was born. I FELL hard for her, wanted to marry her and raise her son as my own. We almost made that happen. BUT, another guy, 20 years her senior came into the picture, offered her a stable home for she and her son, which I was working towards, but was still in college part time, working part time. She opted for the older guy. Guess she was doing what she thought was right. Evidently it worked out for them because 30+ years later she was still married to him when she was taken by early-onset Alzheimer's Disease.
Love #3: I met this lady on a blind date. She was beautiful, kind and lots of fun. I knew after the first date (just coffee and pie) that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I finished up my college experience, got a full time job, proposed marriage, she accepted. 6 months later we got married on the hottest day of the August of that year. One year later, we had our first son. He was stillborn, sadness prevailed. Not to be daunted, we tried again. My daughter was born the next year. What joy! bought two houses, had son #2 4 years later. Life was good. Life's ups and downs prevailed, but we accepted them, kept our love together. In spite of her parents trying to sabotage our love, we stuck it out for 38 years, 1 month, 22 days and 7 hours. She was taken from me by several illnesses caused by diabetes. She was the great love of my life. She will gone 11 years next week, and I still miss her!!
Love #4: Still looking, but not really intently. Most of the women I would be interested in are either confirmed bachelorettes or married. I like my life, now that I'm used to it. I have learned that there is a great difference in being lonely and being alone. I like being alone, and I rarely get lonely anymore. If I do, I try to spend time with friends, family and get out of the house. Maybe someday the right one will come along. If not, life is good just the way it is.
Until next time,
Go, create something,
JF
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