Grief: The good, the bad the ugly!

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Grief! It zaps you like an electric charge. It makes you weep, it makes you angry, and it also makes you remember the good times.

It's been 3 weeks since my brother passed away! I still don't want to believe he's really gone. I know it in my heart, but I just don't want to believe it. Just thinking that I will never see him again, drink a beer with him, grill out with him, or just sit and sing "our song" again makes me so sad. And that's just a few of the things I think about.

I miss the sound of his voice, his perpetual command of the TV remote and the snoring from his recliner.

Yes, time will make it easier, that I know, but right now it just hurts. I happened upon a post about him that I did some time ago for Facebook. I cried! But, that's okay. Crying is good. So is yelling at the wall, maybe even saying a few "choice" swear words. I need to get the anger out so I can begin to process my feelings better.

Tonight I am just sad.

JF

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  1. CurleyFebruary 20, 2019 at 12:04 PM

    The circle of life is hard. Cherish the memories of the 73 plus years you had with him and continue to let out that grief. Yell at the walls, cry a little and then laugh at some of the crazy things you two did growing up. Sending love and hugs your way.

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